Key Takeaways
- Start with beginner-friendly toys that feel approachable, comfortable, and easy to control.
- Consider vibration modes, size, material, and how you plan to use the toy solo or with a partner.
- Communication, comfort, and proper cleaning can make the experience more enjoyable from the beginning.
- As you gain confidence, you can explore more advanced options that match your preferences.
Everyone’s sexual journey is unique, so using sex toys may not be something that you’re totally familiar with or comfortable doing. However, if you think it’s time to start exploring toys, you don’t have to worry about how to figure out the best one for you. Follow this guide from the VSekreets experts for the best beginner sex toys! We’ll cover which sex toys may work for you, how to use sex toys, and which toys work best together. Updated for 2026, this beginner-friendly guide also includes a few simple comfort, cleaning, and confidence tips to help you choose thoughtfully before you explore.
1. Vibrator Wand
A realistic dildo vibrator is a great sex toy for beginners because it’s easy to use and lightweight. You can find a range of options that include a variety of vibration modes and intensity settings. We recommend the wand for women who want clitoral stimulation without penetration. Most wands in our collection are waterproof, compact, and versatile, so you can explore however and whenever you want. For your first use, start with the lowest setting and increase slowly so you can learn what feels most comfortable.
Simply hold the head of the wand up to your clitoris and play with the settings until you find the perfect intensity! If the toy is waterproof, check the product instructions before using it in water or cleaning it fully under running water.
2. Couple’s Vibrator
There are a few options here for those couples who are a little more daring. This is one of the best beginner sex toys because it involves both people to enhance your shared sexual experience. Use the vibrator remotely to stimulate her or during penetrative sex to elevate your experience together. For beginners, it can help to talk about intensity, placement, and comfort before turning the toy on.
How you use this sex toy can be a little more intimidating because it involves both of you. The woman should insert the vibrator into her vagina first and adjust it to her comfort level. Once she’s ready, her partner can insert his penis alongside the vibrator. We love this sex toy for beginners because it encourages more communication and intimacy as you learn together! Keep the first experience low-pressure and pause or adjust whenever either partner wants to change pace.
3. Dildos
Whether you’re using a dildo alone or with a partner, it’s one of the least intimidating sex toys to start with. A durable silicone dildo provides a sensation most like skin, and dildos come in a variety of shapes and sizes so that you can customize your experience. Explore short dildos, long dildos, dildos made of glass, dildos with suction cups for hands-free use, and dildos that double as vibrators! Beginners may want to start with a smaller size, a smooth shape, and a body-safe material that is easy to clean and store.
How you use this sex toy is really about penetration. Find the ideal angle for you and control the speed and depth, using your hand on the base for ultimate control. Use plenty of compatible lubricant and stop if anything feels uncomfortable.
4. Cock Rings
Don’t worry, guys; we haven’t forgotten about you! If you’re looking for something specifically for the men, a cock ring is a great place to start. Cock rings are well-known to improve blood flow to the penis for harder erections and more intense orgasms. Some rings provide simple pressure, while others vibrate for extra stimulation along the penis and for your partner! For a first-time user, a stretchy or adjustable option can feel less intimidating than a firmer ring.
Place the cock ring at the base of your penis and proceed with your sexual adventures as usual. You can combine the cock ring with a couple’s vibrator or dildo for extra pleasure. Make sure the fit feels snug but not painful, and remove it right away if you notice discomfort, numbness, or irritation.
Beginner Tips Before You Use a Sex Toy
Before trying a new toy, read the product instructions, check whether it is waterproof or water resistant, and clean it according to the material. Silicone, glass, metal, acrylic, and other materials may have different care needs, so proper cleaning and storage can help your toy last longer and feel better to use. It is also smart to choose a lubricant that works with your toy’s material and to store your toy clean, dry, and away from dust or debris.
Most importantly, give yourself permission to go slowly. The best beginner sex toy is not always the most advanced option; it is the one that feels approachable, comfortable, and easy to control. If you are shopping with a partner, talk about what each of you wants to try before you begin. If you are shopping solo, think about whether you want external stimulation, internal pleasure, hands-free use, or a toy that can grow with your confidence over time.
What’s Next?
As you gain confidence in how to use sex toys, you can start experimenting with more advanced options. Check out our best-sellers to see what else sex toys have in store for you! Not sure where to start? You can also take the VSekreets quiz for a more personalized way to narrow down beginner-friendly options.
